As a Happy Father’s Day to all, I want to shed some light on our ever changing view of the mother and father roles. I have been called the quintessential mother. I think that’s because I care for so many- not just my offspring, but on a grand scale. I’ve accepted that title, only because it would seem silly for me to refuse such a grand gesture. I am proud of the children I have raised, of the businesses I have birthed and the many people that I have helped and am honored as I have seen their value systems being placed into practical roles in the world.
In fact, I believe that whatever nurturing affect I have as a mother- I simply work that into my job.
And isn’t that the greatest gift, to give wings to fly on your own.
Now, I can only derive from experience what I am about to share. And its not just about me, it’s about everybody who is a mother, has a mother and or has stepped into mother someone.
This is in the end- really about the fathers of the world.
Because I have witnessed so many men step into the feminine roles that nurture and mold their babies, their businesses and their loved ones.
Lets first begin with the many definitions:
moth·er 1 (mŭth′ər)
There is, of course the obvious Mother, direct from birth to nurture, and then all the beauty of those who adopt or raise a child -not from blood. That is the NOUN Mother, specifically for women, female gender. Although I know many men who have stepped in as Mothers for their children or even take on the characteristics of Mother by nature. With our gender specific roles shifting and changing in the world, it’s very hard to use Mother solely for a Woman.
a. A woman who gives birth to a child.
b. A woman whose egg unites with a sperm, producing an embryo.
c. A woman who adopts a child.
d. A woman who raises a child.
2. A female parent of an animal.
3. A female ancestor.
4. A woman who holds a position of authority or responsibility similar to that of a mother: a den mother.
5. Roman Catholic Church
a. A mother superior.
b. Used as a form of address for such a woman.
6. A woman who creates, originates, or founds something: “the discovery of radium, which made Marie Curie mother to the Atomic Age” (Alden Whitman).
7. A creative source; an origin: Philosophy is the mother of the sciences.
8. Used as a title for a woman respected for her wisdom and age.
9. Maternal love and tenderness: brought out the mother in her.
10. The biggest or most significant example of its kind: the mother of all battles.
11. Vulgar Slang Something considered extraordinary, as in disagreeableness, size, or intensity.
#11 Vulgar Slang??? Hey, I didn’t make these up, they are in the dictionary just as displayed. A “mother so and so” as a derogatory term is listed in the definition of mother. Which really shows you how we have evolved. But wait, the best part is about to begin in the descriptions of mother as an adjective. Because mothering is really the subject here, it is the nurturing aspect of men that I want to award here, the ever loving and giving way a man can care for something he loves.
1. Relating to or being a mother.
2. Characteristic of a mother: mother love.
3. Being the source or origin: the mother church.
4. Derived from or as if from one’s mother; native
v. moth·ered, moth·er·ing, moth·ers
a. To give birth to: mothered three children.
b. To be the source of; create or produce: “Necessity mothered the invention of printing” (Irving Wallace).
2. To act as mother to, as in nourishing and protecting.
The greatest gift for anyone to achieve in this lifetime is to experience mothering as the expansion of motherhood reaches beyond the mother-child scenario.
As a Man at one time in your life you have probably experienced at least a moment of mothering:
• Birthing a company
• Raising an animal
• Being a (single)parent
• Nurturing a sick or dying friend
• Caring for your partner in a loving nurturing way
And whether you recognize it or not, it is your awakening of the female energy, that part of you that is most comforted and comfortable. It is the Special gift that all men are offered yet NOT all men can achieve. That softness that you bring when you smile upon the world, that warmth you expand when you wrap your arms around your child or loved one is the part that separates you from the neanderthal.
Men- you are changing. Like it or not, you are evolving into more feminine creatures.
And the women of the world thank you.
Cheers and gratitude to all the fathers in the world who have awakened to Motherhood.
Your presence is a gift.
In health and Love,